WEBVTT NOTE This file was generated by Descript 00:00:02.120 --> 00:00:04.310 Presenter: So excited to be hosting this session today. 00:00:04.700 --> 00:00:09.230 So first I wanna take a moment to thank our sponsor the Rotary Club of Golden. 00:00:09.230 --> 00:00:11.750 Thank you so much for your support and your commitment to 00:00:11.750 --> 00:00:13.370 mental health in our community. 00:00:13.980 --> 00:00:18.390 I am pleased to introduce today's speakers, Martha Tate and Colleen 00:00:18.390 --> 00:00:24.085 Jorgensen, who are both golden Rotarians and retired educators. 00:00:24.085 --> 00:00:26.245 I'm really excited for what we're gonna learn today about 00:00:26.245 --> 00:00:27.715 cool down corners from them. 00:00:27.765 --> 00:00:28.530 Welcome to you both. 00:00:29.685 --> 00:00:33.885 Before I hand the mic over to Martha and Colleen, I do have a few housekeeping 00:00:33.885 --> 00:00:35.805 items to cover about the presentation. 00:00:36.145 --> 00:00:40.615 First, 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--> 00:01:49.675 I also supervise student teachers at the university level, and 00:01:49.675 --> 00:01:53.875 when I retired, I became an integrative nutrition health coach. 00:01:54.115 --> 00:01:58.035 I also serve on the Jeffco PTA board, and of course I'm a member of the 00:01:58.035 --> 00:01:59.985 mental wellness work group for Rotary. 00:02:00.225 --> 00:02:00.735 Colleen? 00:02:01.555 --> 00:02:03.495 Colleen Jorgensen: Yes, I'm Colleen Jorgensen and thank 00:02:03.495 --> 00:02:05.085 you all for attending today. 00:02:05.085 --> 00:02:09.164 I'm a retired faculty and administrator from Red Rocks Community College. 00:02:09.555 --> 00:02:12.915 I'm a member of Golden Rotary and I'm a facilitator at the 00:02:12.970 --> 00:02:14.920 OSHA Lifelong Earning Institute. 00:02:15.826 --> 00:02:16.696 First of all. 00:02:16.866 --> 00:02:18.276 We know this is hard. 00:02:18.876 --> 00:02:21.786 We know that life is particularly demanding right now. 00:02:21.846 --> 00:02:26.436 We understand that monitoring remote learning can be extremely challenging, 00:02:26.629 --> 00:02:30.469 and we hope that we can help you manage the social emotional piece in 00:02:30.469 --> 00:02:34.819 order to make life a little easier for both you and your children. 00:02:35.824 --> 00:02:39.454 Martha Tate: We want start with talking a little bit about what a cool down corner 00:02:39.454 --> 00:02:45.364 is and what it is not, because it's a very unique concept, so we wanna make it real 00:02:45.364 --> 00:02:49.864 clear to you so that you have a great idea about how to work and how it doesn't work. 00:02:50.254 --> 00:02:55.204 So first of all, it is a place and time for children to regain their self-control 00:02:55.534 --> 00:02:59.524 and learn self-regulation strategies that work for a particular child. 00:03:00.154 --> 00:03:04.534 It is not a punishment for bad behavior and it's not a playtime 00:03:04.534 --> 00:03:06.304 to escape their responsibilities. 00:03:06.534 --> 00:03:10.404 The contents of the cool down corner are usually called tools rather than 00:03:10.404 --> 00:03:14.874 toys, so that children understand that they're seeing them for a specific 00:03:14.874 --> 00:03:20.874 purpose and it's a short time rather than a long period of time, and moving 00:03:20.874 --> 00:03:24.894 towards shorter and shorter times that children need to go there in 00:03:24.894 --> 00:03:26.639 order to get themselves under control. 00:03:28.134 --> 00:03:31.224 Colleen Jorgensen: A Cool Down Corner is primarily a place for learning, 00:03:31.344 --> 00:03:35.694 self-soothing, self-regulation skills and strategies to learn, 00:03:35.694 --> 00:03:37.614 practice, and master those skills. 00:03:38.064 --> 00:03:42.531 It's not a reward for children who have already acquired these skills, but all 00:03:42.531 --> 00:03:47.541 children occasionally need space to deal with frustration, sadness, or anger. 00:03:47.901 --> 00:03:51.501 And I'm gonna put a little plug in here that it works for adults as well. 00:03:52.521 --> 00:03:58.661 It is a supported process with follow-up check-ins by parents to find out what is 00:03:58.661 --> 00:04:00.401 and what is not working for the child. 00:04:01.121 --> 00:04:04.716 It is not completely the responsibility of the child in the beginning. 00:04:05.716 --> 00:04:09.106 Martha Tate: It's an area that changes regularly so that you can add 00:04:09.136 --> 00:04:14.116 interest and use various ideas to see what works for your specific child. 00:04:14.386 --> 00:04:17.896 It's not stagnant and just one of those places that you set 00:04:17.896 --> 00:04:19.636 up and then it never changes. 00:04:19.666 --> 00:04:23.626 It needs to be engaging for the child, and it is directed either 00:04:23.626 --> 00:04:24.976 by the parent or the child. 00:04:24.976 --> 00:04:28.906 The parent can suggest the child spend time there, or the child 00:04:28.906 --> 00:04:30.586 may ask to spend time there. 00:04:31.111 --> 00:04:34.831 The parent may wish at the beginning though, to have some control over the 00:04:34.831 --> 00:04:36.871 amount of time allowed in the corner. 00:04:37.291 --> 00:04:39.961 And timers are really useful for this purpose. 00:04:39.961 --> 00:04:43.741 Sand timers that you can buy on Amazon are great for that and kids love them. 00:04:44.688 --> 00:04:48.478 Colleen Jorgensen: A cool down corner can be set up with items you already 00:04:48.478 --> 00:04:51.198 have that you can add items of interest. 00:04:51.288 --> 00:04:52.998 It doesn't have to be expensive. 00:04:53.403 --> 00:04:57.333 It's meant to support student learning of the important life skills so that 00:04:57.333 --> 00:04:59.583 eventually the students no longer need it. 00:05:00.153 --> 00:05:02.733 It is not meant to be a long-term solution. 00:05:03.213 --> 00:05:06.543 It works great for some families, not as well for others, 00:05:06.543 --> 00:05:08.253 but definitely worth a try. 00:05:08.793 --> 00:05:13.533 It's not a be all end all, but as any new process, you must give it 00:05:13.533 --> 00:05:15.543 a true chance to make a difference. 00:05:16.591 --> 00:05:18.701 Martha Tate: Now some of you may be thinking why not just 00:05:18.701 --> 00:05:19.781 send them to their room? 00:05:20.221 --> 00:05:23.761 Let me really make a clear distinction here between 00:05:23.761 --> 00:05:26.161 consequences and a cool down corner. 00:05:26.681 --> 00:05:32.981 In your family you may wanna think about what are those particular behaviors 00:05:32.981 --> 00:05:35.171 that I would apply consequences to? 00:05:35.171 --> 00:05:40.171 For instance, lying, physically or emotionally hurting someone else in 00:05:40.171 --> 00:05:45.091 the family, disrespect, those kind of things, and that's different. 00:05:45.451 --> 00:05:48.331 Those would be things that as a parent, you might want to apply 00:05:48.331 --> 00:05:52.651 consequences to, but we want to make sure that you understand that 00:05:52.651 --> 00:05:54.656 a cool down corner is different. 00:05:55.126 --> 00:05:56.641 This is a safe place. 00:05:56.641 --> 00:05:59.191 It's not about consequences or punishment. 00:05:59.761 --> 00:06:04.591 We want them to associate this with pleasure and something 00:06:04.591 --> 00:06:07.011 that's good, not a consequence. 00:06:07.431 --> 00:06:08.991 So let's go through this together. 00:06:09.291 --> 00:06:12.441 It's important for children to learn that emotions are really 00:06:12.441 --> 00:06:13.881 just a part of being human. 00:06:14.311 --> 00:06:20.041 If you send them away, it may feel like rejection or that having emotions is bad. 00:06:20.611 --> 00:06:23.521 Children who are ashamed or punished for having emotions. 00:06:24.181 --> 00:06:27.361 Often learn to repress those feelings and then they'll bubble up 00:06:27.361 --> 00:06:29.851 later in sometimes unhealthy ways. 00:06:30.421 --> 00:06:34.321 Children need to master their emotions even at an early age and 00:06:34.321 --> 00:06:36.181 learn to handle them constructively. 00:06:36.881 --> 00:06:39.251 During this time they need understanding. 00:06:39.461 --> 00:06:42.411 They need to feel loved, especially when they're upset. 00:06:42.951 --> 00:06:48.561 So a calm, warm, caring adult close by makes the child feel safe and strengthens 00:06:48.561 --> 00:06:50.121 that parent-child relationship. 00:06:50.931 --> 00:06:55.481 At first, you may wanna go with your child, and if possible have that 00:06:55.481 --> 00:06:57.521 cool down corner close by to you. 00:06:58.301 --> 00:07:02.591 If it is safe and inviting and you sometimes go there together, 00:07:02.591 --> 00:07:05.911 then eventually the child will self-select to go their on their own. 00:07:06.909 --> 00:07:08.979 Colleen Jorgensen: So let's introduce the cool down corner. 00:07:09.459 --> 00:07:13.449 You can call it a cool down corner, a chill out corner, a calm down 00:07:13.449 --> 00:07:15.639 corner, or even a cozy corner. 00:07:16.479 --> 00:07:20.319 But you want to introduce it as a special and calming place to be 00:07:20.559 --> 00:07:26.079 where anyone, including adults, can go and get cozy, relax, and regroup. 00:07:27.039 --> 00:07:30.909 Have a few items the child loves and will use to calm down. 00:07:31.029 --> 00:07:34.869 A stuffed animal, a fidget, a coloring book, et cetera. 00:07:34.899 --> 00:07:36.759 Whatever works for your child. 00:07:37.659 --> 00:07:41.349 Teach a strategies such as blowing on a pinwheel or belly 00:07:41.349 --> 00:07:43.059 breathing as time goes on. 00:07:43.599 --> 00:07:45.099 Teach additional strategies. 00:07:45.879 --> 00:07:49.839 Have a timer, like a sand timer that the child can turn over and come back 00:07:49.839 --> 00:07:51.999 to you when the time is up for check-in. 00:07:52.539 --> 00:07:57.144 You can always add to the corner and change it up as you go, and that's it. 00:07:58.141 --> 00:07:59.671 Martha Tate: It really is an easy process. 00:08:00.451 --> 00:08:01.651 Now what does it look like? 00:08:02.251 --> 00:08:05.551 You have many options and let your child help design it. 00:08:06.061 --> 00:08:09.001 Pick a place with less traffic, and perhaps with some 00:08:09.001 --> 00:08:11.251 privacy, but within proximity. 00:08:11.791 --> 00:08:16.651 Good items to include are beanbags, pillows or comfy chairs. 00:08:17.251 --> 00:08:21.601 Posters to help children identify their emotions or posters that help 00:08:21.601 --> 00:08:25.736 them with breathing or tapping, which is a process, will teach you in a bit. 00:08:26.466 --> 00:08:30.936 You can also include a tub with tools for learning that is changed up regularly. 00:08:31.396 --> 00:08:34.656 As you can see, it could just be a desk in the corner. 00:08:34.986 --> 00:08:39.186 It can be an empty box, it could be a beanbag chair or. 00:08:40.101 --> 00:08:44.631 Here's some other options that I just grabbed off the internet, and you can see 00:08:44.631 --> 00:08:49.881 this big comfy chair that looks like a big hug for children who need to block things 00:08:49.881 --> 00:08:52.851 out and who are on sensory overload. 00:08:53.151 --> 00:08:58.041 One of the bigger boxes or one of the little inside tents are great options, 00:08:58.401 --> 00:09:01.461 and then you can get more elaborate with all the pillows and things 00:09:01.461 --> 00:09:02.931 like the other two in the corner. 00:09:03.621 --> 00:09:07.761 You can use writing materials, you can use posters for them to help become 00:09:07.761 --> 00:09:11.481 aware and identify their feelings and their emotions at the moment. 00:09:11.721 --> 00:09:13.671 And then you can get other posters. 00:09:13.671 --> 00:09:18.441 JCMH has a great poster that is an emotions ladder that shows children 00:09:18.681 --> 00:09:22.461 where they are on the ladder and then helps them get down the ladder 00:09:22.461 --> 00:09:24.201 so that they're not as emotional. 00:09:25.181 --> 00:09:27.191 Colleen Jorgensen: Some of the other things that you want to 00:09:27.191 --> 00:09:31.301 include in your cool down corner are fidgets and comfort items. 00:09:31.641 --> 00:09:33.951 Here's a few examples that we've shown you. 00:09:33.981 --> 00:09:40.221 The first one is a glitter jar and squeeze balls, a teddy bear that you might like. 00:09:40.521 --> 00:09:44.241 Pinwheels are great 'cause you can just blow on them and get mesmerized. 00:09:44.716 --> 00:09:45.706 Kush balls. 00:09:46.026 --> 00:09:50.236 The third item there on the bottom is just a piece of rubber stretching 00:09:50.386 --> 00:09:53.666 material that you might have gotten if you ever went to the doctor 00:09:53.666 --> 00:09:55.816 and had to do some PT exercises. 00:09:56.356 --> 00:09:59.856 Those things are nice to just stretch and get focused on what you're doing, 00:10:00.156 --> 00:10:02.076 or beads that you can put together. 00:10:02.696 --> 00:10:05.726 Here's some more stress reduction tools for CDC. 00:10:05.756 --> 00:10:09.596 Pinwheels, books and coloring books, stress balls, resistance 00:10:09.596 --> 00:10:14.896 bands, puzzles, stuffed animals, pillows, weighted lap pads or belts. 00:10:14.896 --> 00:10:19.336 Weighted lap pads are really good because they have a great calming effect. 00:10:19.736 --> 00:10:26.296 Blankets, glitter jars, liquid bubble timers, thinking putty, posters, writing 00:10:26.296 --> 00:10:31.606 paper, tissue, paper to tear if they're angry, it's a good meditative thing to do. 00:10:31.906 --> 00:10:36.316 Headphones for sound reduction or listening to music and smelling jars 00:10:36.366 --> 00:10:38.566 or scented Play-Doh are also good. 00:10:39.616 --> 00:10:41.346 Martha Tate: When and when not to use the CDC. 00:10:41.376 --> 00:10:45.221 I know some of it may be repetitive, but it's really critical to understand 00:10:45.221 --> 00:10:46.481 when you use it and when you don't. 00:10:46.901 --> 00:10:50.741 So you can use it when your child is frustrated, sad, angry, 00:10:50.771 --> 00:10:53.351 confused, or just needs a break. 00:10:53.741 --> 00:10:57.311 It's helpful if you use it before the behavior escalates out of 00:10:57.311 --> 00:11:01.241 control, and when your child can't focus or engage in learning. 00:11:01.811 --> 00:11:06.141 It's not for use as a playtime or to get out of completing 00:11:06.141 --> 00:11:07.821 a task that they need to do. 00:11:08.391 --> 00:11:11.991 As a reward for doing what they should really already be doing 00:11:11.991 --> 00:11:16.041 that's expected of them, or as a punishment for not engaging and 00:11:16.041 --> 00:11:17.811 learning or doing what's asked of them. 00:11:18.841 --> 00:11:24.271 There is a very strong mind body connection as research shows us, and 00:11:24.271 --> 00:11:28.291 the connection between our minds and bodies is really, truly very strong. 00:11:28.651 --> 00:11:34.591 So using relaxation techniques such as breathing, tapping, mindfulness 00:11:34.591 --> 00:11:39.931 or awareness can really help calm the body and mind, and it engages the 00:11:39.931 --> 00:11:45.121 parasympathetic nervous system so that we can function better as a result. 00:11:45.451 --> 00:11:49.021 So now we're gonna show you a few techniques you might consider 00:11:49.021 --> 00:11:50.941 using and teaching to your child. 00:11:51.740 --> 00:11:55.875 Colleen Jorgensen: Breathing is the effective strategy for calming down. 00:11:56.510 --> 00:12:00.860 It activates the sympathetic nervous system rather than the parasympathetic, 00:12:00.950 --> 00:12:03.080 which is your fight or flight system. 00:12:04.280 --> 00:12:08.480 If you use belly breathing, deep breathing, you have to focus on that. 00:12:08.480 --> 00:12:11.420 That's really what you're doing is taking your child's focus from 00:12:11.420 --> 00:12:16.500 the anger or their emotions and allowing them to focus inward. 00:12:17.220 --> 00:12:23.100 The 4-7-8 breathing technique from Dr. Andrew Will is a good one to 00:12:23.100 --> 00:12:27.780 learn and the pinwheels are a good way to start 'cause it helps little 00:12:27.780 --> 00:12:30.000 kids breathe in a very fun way. 00:12:30.758 --> 00:12:33.188 Martha Tate: Okay, now we're gonna show you a few other, I think we have 00:12:33.278 --> 00:12:37.208 four different breathing techniques, and you can mix them up and use them 00:12:37.208 --> 00:12:40.178 with your child and let the child figure out what works best for them. 00:12:40.598 --> 00:12:46.028 The first one is called hissing breath, and children make a sound as they breathe 00:12:46.028 --> 00:12:51.758 it slowly in, and it helps to develop awareness and it helps them control their 00:12:51.758 --> 00:12:57.158 breathing so they breathe in through the nose, taking in a long, deep inhale. 00:12:57.713 --> 00:13:03.203 You can do this with us and then exhale out the mouth on a small 00:13:05.963 --> 00:13:08.843 sound, like a balloon, slowly losing air. 00:13:09.473 --> 00:13:11.153 At first, go super slow. 00:13:11.453 --> 00:13:15.773 Then try to make the exhale last 10 to 15 seconds or more. 00:13:16.043 --> 00:13:17.033 So let's try that. 00:13:17.273 --> 00:13:20.393 Breathe in and long, deep in breath 00:13:22.403 --> 00:13:24.028 and out with the hissing down. 00:13:32.153 --> 00:13:36.623 Okay, the next is called humming Breath, and it's like giving yourself 00:13:36.653 --> 00:13:41.873 a hug and so wonderful for calming down and centering and self-soothing. 00:13:42.353 --> 00:13:47.603 It is great to use on a regular basis before starting any new activity, and 00:13:47.603 --> 00:13:51.533 it also works well when kids are feeling frustrated, overwhelmed, or irritable. 00:13:52.043 --> 00:13:54.353 You place one hand on the belly button. 00:13:55.868 --> 00:13:59.498 Place the other hand on your sternum in the middle of your chest. 00:14:00.608 --> 00:14:04.628 Take a deep breath and then hum while breathing out. 00:14:04.658 --> 00:14:10.178 You can feel the vibration as you hum and it lets you ground 00:14:10.178 --> 00:14:11.858 your body and calm your mind. 00:14:11.888 --> 00:14:12.878 So let's try that. 00:14:13.298 --> 00:14:14.438 Breathe in deeply. 00:14:15.758 --> 00:14:18.638 One hand on belly button, one hand on your sternum. 00:14:20.378 --> 00:14:22.298 Now breathe out, while humming. 00:14:29.618 --> 00:14:32.648 Can you feel that vibration as you do that? 00:14:32.678 --> 00:14:32.708 Okay. 00:14:34.261 --> 00:14:37.671 Colleen Jorgensen: The next two we're gonna talk about are both ones that have 00:14:37.671 --> 00:14:39.561 a lot of humor associated with them. 00:14:39.561 --> 00:14:45.271 Humor is a wonderful way to help people relax and get refocused. 00:14:45.661 --> 00:14:49.181 So the fish breath is a fun, silly technique because you make a bloop 00:14:49.201 --> 00:14:51.901 sound on the exhale like a fish. 00:14:52.381 --> 00:14:55.711 So it sure to start some laughter, which is an effective way to disperse 00:14:55.711 --> 00:15:00.511 tension or over efforting and help kids not take the things too seriously. 00:15:01.171 --> 00:15:05.251 Psychologically, when you inhale deeply, you pull in lots of oxygen 00:15:05.251 --> 00:15:08.461 needed by your brain and your body to stay relaxed and alert. 00:15:09.016 --> 00:15:13.306 When you inhale, exhale completely, you make room for more, which helps us 00:15:13.306 --> 00:15:15.556 release stress and recharge ourselves. 00:15:16.306 --> 00:15:17.446 So let's all try it. 00:15:17.446 --> 00:15:21.886 We're gonna take a deep breath through our nose, expand our cheeks out so they're all 00:15:21.886 --> 00:15:24.046 puffy, and push it out through your mouth. 00:15:24.286 --> 00:15:25.366 Bloop, bloop, bloop. 00:15:25.906 --> 00:15:29.416 And again, breathe deep in your nose, expand your cheeks 00:15:29.416 --> 00:15:30.886 and exhale out your mouth. 00:15:30.946 --> 00:15:32.336 So let's all try that. 00:15:32.706 --> 00:15:33.296 Deep breath. 00:15:35.416 --> 00:15:42.076 Boop, boop, boop, boop, boop, boop, and hopefully you all thought that was funny. 00:15:44.126 --> 00:15:45.386 It's really a good technique. 00:15:45.716 --> 00:15:47.306 The second one is similar. 00:15:47.456 --> 00:15:48.836 It's called the ocean breath. 00:15:48.836 --> 00:15:52.526 The ocean breath has the same hand positions as the humming 00:15:52.526 --> 00:15:55.991 breath, but instead of humming, you have children move their eyes. 00:15:56.786 --> 00:16:01.806 Their head remains still slowly and together from right to left on the exhale. 00:16:02.226 --> 00:16:05.646 This movement facilitates improved eye teaming skills 00:16:05.646 --> 00:16:07.086 and cross motor coordination. 00:16:07.476 --> 00:16:11.646 It's good for bolstering confidence and shifting to calm kids that are 00:16:11.646 --> 00:16:14.676 feeling anxious, fearful, or confused. 00:16:15.006 --> 00:16:18.516 So you're gonna place one hand on your belly button the other in the 00:16:18.516 --> 00:16:20.376 middle of your chest on your sternum. 00:16:20.766 --> 00:16:25.716 Then press your thumb and forefinger into the soft points beneath your 00:16:25.716 --> 00:16:28.146 collarbone on either side of your sternum. 00:16:29.046 --> 00:16:32.796 Inhale fully through your nose, and then as you exhale, slowly 00:16:32.796 --> 00:16:34.656 move your eyes from right to left. 00:16:35.166 --> 00:16:36.876 So let's all try that. 00:16:37.756 --> 00:16:38.866 We're gonna take a deep breath, 00:16:40.941 --> 00:16:46.736 and then as we exhale, move our eyes from right slowly to left. 00:16:48.881 --> 00:16:52.751 If you're like me, hopefully you know which way is the right side to start with, 00:16:52.751 --> 00:16:54.611 which I just think I did it backwards. 00:16:54.711 --> 00:16:57.201 It doesn't matter which way you start, I don't think. 00:16:57.201 --> 00:17:03.113 By the way these all come from an article for kids, yoga and brain gym breathing 00:17:03.113 --> 00:17:05.273 techniques that develop self-regulation. 00:17:05.343 --> 00:17:06.583 It's a great article. 00:17:07.413 --> 00:17:10.053 Martha Tate: Okay, now we're gonna talk about tapping or 00:17:10.053 --> 00:17:11.683 emotional freedom technique. 00:17:12.718 --> 00:17:17.188 It is a research method of emotional support, and it really isn't hocus pocus. 00:17:17.518 --> 00:17:21.548 In fact, we've been working with some of the golden schools establishing cool 00:17:21.548 --> 00:17:25.688 down corners in classrooms, and one of the social workers told us there that 00:17:25.688 --> 00:17:30.848 they were taught this technique in their classes in college and how to use that. 00:17:31.478 --> 00:17:34.748 Studies at Harvard Medical School have revealed that stimulating 00:17:34.838 --> 00:17:39.218 the body's meridian points, the same spots on your body that are 00:17:39.218 --> 00:17:41.378 manipulated by an acupuncturist. 00:17:41.873 --> 00:17:45.263 Significantly reduces activity in the amygdala. 00:17:45.773 --> 00:17:49.283 The amygdala is like a personal alarm system. 00:17:49.793 --> 00:17:55.163 When you experience trauma or fear, the amygdala is triggered, flooding 00:17:55.163 --> 00:17:57.413 the body with cortisol, stress hormone. 00:17:57.983 --> 00:18:04.073 This chain reaction or stress response significantly influences or even causes 00:18:04.073 --> 00:18:08.663 whatever it is that is troubling you, whether that's an illness, an injury, 00:18:08.663 --> 00:18:10.433 an emotion or external problem. 00:18:10.853 --> 00:18:13.283 Such as an issue with a friend. 00:18:13.813 --> 00:18:16.363 Here is one way you can do that. 00:18:16.643 --> 00:18:21.353 We are going to give you later in the resources a link where you can go and 00:18:21.353 --> 00:18:27.723 download a tapping guide that has a lot of these little supports for you 00:18:27.723 --> 00:18:29.283 in it that you can use as a parent. 00:18:29.853 --> 00:18:37.928 What I love about EFT is it encompasses several different tools that we know work 00:18:37.988 --> 00:18:40.908 in stress management and self-awareness. 00:18:41.008 --> 00:18:44.038 One of them is self-awareness, self-management. 00:18:44.458 --> 00:18:46.708 It includes positive self-talk. 00:18:46.928 --> 00:18:50.678 Kids can sometimes get in the habit of saying or thinking I'm dumb, 00:18:50.678 --> 00:18:53.423 or I'm stupid, or I can't do that. 00:18:53.763 --> 00:18:58.173 This includes some good positive self talk and retrain some of 00:18:58.173 --> 00:19:00.033 that thinking for your child. 00:19:00.313 --> 00:19:03.373 It gives them a gross mindset that they can do things. 00:19:04.153 --> 00:19:07.543 So you start at the eyebrow, right above the eyebrow. 00:19:07.783 --> 00:19:09.973 You can do it with both hands or one. 00:19:10.963 --> 00:19:12.463 And you start tapping. 00:19:12.773 --> 00:19:16.703 As you tap, you say, I can try new things. 00:19:17.508 --> 00:19:18.798 Then move to the eye. 00:19:19.571 --> 00:19:21.821 I can learn from my mistakes. 00:19:22.825 --> 00:19:26.425 Then under the eye, I'm a great kid. 00:19:27.421 --> 00:19:31.441 Under the nose, I can feel good about all of my work. 00:19:32.438 --> 00:19:34.781 Chin, I can forgive myself. 00:19:35.785 --> 00:19:38.153 Collarbone, I can try again. 00:19:39.153 --> 00:19:41.880 Under the arm, I did my best. 00:19:42.880 --> 00:19:45.810 Top of the head, I forgive myself. 00:19:46.560 --> 00:19:50.730 And one thing that's not on here, but you can also use is called the karate chop, 00:19:51.270 --> 00:19:53.730 and that is on the side of the hands. 00:19:53.970 --> 00:19:55.290 You can tap there as well. 00:19:56.256 --> 00:19:59.586 You can use this technique in a lot of different ways at 00:19:59.586 --> 00:20:00.936 different times of the day. 00:20:01.296 --> 00:20:04.716 You might wanna establish this as a morning routine before you get 00:20:04.716 --> 00:20:09.426 started with remote learning to help calm kids down and focus them and 00:20:09.426 --> 00:20:11.406 ready for their learning experience. 00:20:11.886 --> 00:20:15.846 You can take brain breaks during the day where you can 00:20:16.206 --> 00:20:19.356 tap and get them calmed down. 00:20:20.061 --> 00:20:23.091 They can do it in the cool down corner privately. 00:20:23.091 --> 00:20:27.171 They can learn to do this on their own without you, or you can do it at 00:20:27.171 --> 00:20:31.701 the end of the day or before bedtime to calm down and to get centered 00:20:31.941 --> 00:20:36.061 and to help them have a better evening or a better night's sleep. 00:20:37.130 --> 00:20:40.325 Another technique that we use is called the two to five minute 00:20:40.325 --> 00:20:43.265 check-in, and it depends on your child, how long it might take. 00:20:43.355 --> 00:20:45.365 It may take a little longer for some children. 00:20:46.340 --> 00:20:50.570 Some children really have trouble verbalizing what is wrong, and if your 00:20:50.570 --> 00:20:54.770 child has some learning disabilities, it could be that at times maybe it's hard 00:20:54.770 --> 00:20:56.630 for them to tell you what's going on. 00:20:57.250 --> 00:21:00.970 This is a technique where you teach them these five simple areas 00:21:00.970 --> 00:21:03.130 where they may be having a problem. 00:21:03.970 --> 00:21:07.900 When they have a problem, ask them to show you which number it 00:21:07.900 --> 00:21:10.930 is by merely showing on the hand. 00:21:11.710 --> 00:21:12.850 The number that it is. 00:21:12.850 --> 00:21:17.560 For instance, a five would be, I'm really struggling with my schoolwork right 00:21:17.560 --> 00:21:22.700 now, or, I had a problem with my brother this morning and it was really bad. 00:21:23.120 --> 00:21:24.950 Or last night I had a problem. 00:21:24.950 --> 00:21:28.199 I couldn't go to sleep and I just kept thinking about things 00:21:28.199 --> 00:21:29.699 and that would be a three. 00:21:30.239 --> 00:21:33.779 At this point, if they are at a point where they can't even 00:21:33.779 --> 00:21:35.860 express, but other than a number. 00:21:36.250 --> 00:21:39.689 What you can do is you can send them to the cool down corner after they've 00:21:39.689 --> 00:21:43.919 showed you the number, tell them that they can come and check in with you 00:21:44.519 --> 00:21:50.070 when they are ready to do so, and then you can check in with them like this. 00:21:51.070 --> 00:21:53.470 Ask the child, tell me what happened. 00:21:54.129 --> 00:21:57.459 The child may say, I got in a fight with my brother. 00:21:58.240 --> 00:22:03.100 Paraphrase that, oh, you and Johnny had a disagreement. 00:22:03.591 --> 00:22:05.571 And it sounds like it's really bothering you. 00:22:06.381 --> 00:22:07.851 Then ask the child to own it. 00:22:08.931 --> 00:22:12.291 This must be making you feel, how's this making you feel? 00:22:12.291 --> 00:22:13.941 Are you angry or are you sad? 00:22:14.271 --> 00:22:18.801 Help them to own the feeling that they're having and then acknowledge it. 00:22:19.041 --> 00:22:20.211 Wow, you're angry. 00:22:20.211 --> 00:22:24.411 That must make you feel really sad and really unsettled right now. 00:22:25.341 --> 00:22:28.971 Then let them feel it, feel it in a safe way and monitor it. 00:22:28.971 --> 00:22:29.901 Just sit with them. 00:22:29.901 --> 00:22:32.691 Just be with them and be there for them just for a minute. 00:22:33.471 --> 00:22:35.931 Then the last step is to help them reframe it. 00:22:36.531 --> 00:22:39.351 If they said, I had a fight with my brother. 00:22:39.741 --> 00:22:43.971 Then you can help lead them to, well, what could you do about that? 00:22:44.541 --> 00:22:45.621 How could you fix that? 00:22:45.921 --> 00:22:47.511 Yeah, you can talk to your brother. 00:22:47.601 --> 00:22:48.621 When could you do that? 00:22:49.221 --> 00:22:49.791 At lunch? 00:22:50.091 --> 00:22:50.511 Sure. 00:22:50.541 --> 00:22:51.351 After school? 00:22:51.381 --> 00:22:51.891 Sure. 00:22:52.041 --> 00:22:53.511 Okay, so what's your plan? 00:22:53.825 --> 00:22:57.825 Right, your plan is that after school today, you're gonna go to your brother 00:22:57.915 --> 00:23:01.515 and you're gonna talk it through, and then you help them reframe that in a 00:23:01.515 --> 00:23:04.005 more positive way and give them a plan. 00:23:04.225 --> 00:23:06.865 You're teaching them to resolve their own issues. 00:23:08.075 --> 00:23:11.615 Colleen Jorgensen: CDC's should neither be stagnant or over stimulating. 00:23:11.680 --> 00:23:13.925 Only put a few tools in at a time. 00:23:14.015 --> 00:23:16.175 This is a good way to see what is working. 00:23:17.060 --> 00:23:20.630 Every child is different, so families have to find out what is working 00:23:20.630 --> 00:23:23.030 for them at any one point in time. 00:23:23.960 --> 00:23:28.880 Parent preferences and tolerances are also important to the success of the CDC. 00:23:29.360 --> 00:23:33.560 Some parents are fine with music or short instructional videos, or 00:23:33.560 --> 00:23:36.980 others may feel it distracts them from their work or rewards them. 00:23:37.610 --> 00:23:39.605 Listen to your intuition and go for it. 00:23:40.600 --> 00:23:43.630 Martha Tate: Okay, so here are some resources and articles that you'll be 00:23:43.630 --> 00:23:49.680 provided with this presentation so that you have these, and these are some of the 00:23:49.730 --> 00:23:52.190 articles that information was taken from. 00:23:52.520 --> 00:23:56.030 At the bottom you'll see the Quick Start Tapping Guide, which is a 00:23:56.030 --> 00:23:58.100 great resource that you can download. 00:23:58.505 --> 00:24:03.185 I would also suggest that you go to the Tapping Solution website. 00:24:03.665 --> 00:24:08.435 Nick Ortner is the founder of that, and he and his sister are fabulous 00:24:08.795 --> 00:24:13.895 and they have lots of ideas for you on their website, which is again 00:24:14.385 --> 00:24:16.695 the Tapping Solution by Nick Ortner. 00:24:17.361 --> 00:24:21.441 Also, there are videos online that you can go in and watch, give you 00:24:21.441 --> 00:24:25.341 some ideas from other parents about how they have established their cool 00:24:25.341 --> 00:24:27.171 down corners and how they use them. 00:24:28.211 --> 00:24:31.421 Colleen Jorgensen: So what questions do you have for us? 00:24:31.481 --> 00:24:35.521 This is time for us to answer any questions and to share experiences. 00:24:36.096 --> 00:24:37.386 Some things to think about. 00:24:37.386 --> 00:24:41.326 How will you and your child or children plan your family CDC. 00:24:41.766 --> 00:24:44.616 How are you going to introduce the CDC and the tools? 00:24:45.456 --> 00:24:48.096 How will you set up ground rules for its use? 00:24:48.426 --> 00:24:52.416 What are some ideas you might have that you might want to share with this group? 00:24:53.787 --> 00:24:56.987 I would recommend that you put your questions in the chat form 00:24:56.987 --> 00:24:58.607 so that we can monitor them. 00:24:59.587 --> 00:25:01.007 Martha Tate: Do we have any questions yet? 00:25:02.132 --> 00:25:06.502 Colleen Jorgensen: The one about autism and the sensory items in the autism. 00:25:07.003 --> 00:25:07.393 Martha Tate: Yes. 00:25:07.773 --> 00:25:11.103 Colleen Jorgensen: Do we recommend telling the child the purpose of the CDC? 00:25:11.403 --> 00:25:12.933 And I would say absolutely. 00:25:12.933 --> 00:25:14.103 What would you say, Martha? 00:25:14.433 --> 00:25:14.733 Martha Tate: Yes. 00:25:14.733 --> 00:25:16.803 I think the more transparent you are, the better. 00:25:17.043 --> 00:25:21.543 And as Colleen had mentioned earlier, it's a great place for parents to go as well. 00:25:21.963 --> 00:25:26.453 You can monitor that for your child and teach them that this is a safe 00:25:26.453 --> 00:25:28.313 place and this is a tool for you. 00:25:28.678 --> 00:25:32.758 I think it's really good, especially maybe like the tent for children 00:25:33.238 --> 00:25:36.628 who need to just get away by themselves just for a few minutes. 00:25:36.628 --> 00:25:40.578 I think that you'll find it's especially helpful for children 00:25:40.578 --> 00:25:42.948 that are on this spectrum disorder. 00:25:43.368 --> 00:25:48.078 Give it a try and see, like I said, it doesn't work for everybody, but give it 00:25:48.078 --> 00:25:50.268 a try and see if it works for your child. 00:25:50.932 --> 00:25:52.012 Get your child's input. 00:25:52.312 --> 00:25:55.012 If this isn't working, how can we make this work for you? 00:25:55.628 --> 00:25:59.688 Colleen Jorgensen: One of the nice things about parents using this as well, is if 00:25:59.688 --> 00:26:04.578 you find yourself getting irritable and angry and you take a few minutes to go to 00:26:04.578 --> 00:26:07.038 the cool down corner, turn over the timer. 00:26:07.473 --> 00:26:10.533 Your children know to just let you spend a couple of minutes 00:26:10.533 --> 00:26:12.093 in there to get regrouped. 00:26:12.563 --> 00:26:14.843 Do something that's very mesmerizing. 00:26:14.893 --> 00:26:17.083 Whatever kind of things you have in there. 00:26:17.083 --> 00:26:19.933 Maybe it's just the squishy ball and you just look at it 00:26:19.933 --> 00:26:21.523 and focus on your breathing. 00:26:22.303 --> 00:26:26.623 It shows the children that you have emotions and sometimes they can come 00:26:26.623 --> 00:26:28.613 out, and get out of control as well. 00:26:28.613 --> 00:26:32.333 And it's a tool that you use to keep yourself in check as 00:26:32.333 --> 00:26:33.953 well not just for the kids. 00:26:34.953 --> 00:26:39.933 Martha Tate: If you have questions or you need more resources as a result of today's 00:26:39.933 --> 00:26:45.703 presentation, please email us and we have put our email addresses here for you. 00:26:46.123 --> 00:26:50.443 Please know that we are not going to use your email for 00:26:50.473 --> 00:26:52.333 mailing lists or anything else. 00:26:52.873 --> 00:26:58.663 We will only use your email to respond to your question from today's presentations. 00:26:59.023 --> 00:27:02.773 So please feel free to contact us and don't be worried that we're gonna be 00:27:02.773 --> 00:27:04.703 using your email for other purposes. 00:27:04.763 --> 00:27:05.303 Okay? 00:27:06.301 --> 00:27:07.441 Colleen Jorgensen: Take care of yourselves. 00:27:07.441 --> 00:27:08.551 You're all amazing. 00:27:09.081 --> 00:27:10.761 Martha Tate: Yes, treat yourself accordingly. 00:27:10.761 --> 00:27:13.761 This is a really tough time, please practice self-care. 00:27:14.436 --> 00:27:18.546 I have come to believe that caring for myself is not self-indulgence. 00:27:19.026 --> 00:27:21.846 Caring for myself is an act of survival. 00:27:22.896 --> 00:27:24.786 Thank you so much for your time. 00:27:25.086 --> 00:27:28.716 For all you do to support your children at home and their teachers. 00:27:28.716 --> 00:27:32.826 The teachers are so appreciative and they know that this is difficult for you. 00:27:33.256 --> 00:27:37.366 We really appreciate all the work that you do at home with your child. 00:27:37.726 --> 00:27:43.266 It was really a privilege to be here, again, email us or we'll 00:27:43.266 --> 00:27:46.056 stay on the line for a few more minutes if you have more questions. 00:27:47.046 --> 00:27:47.526 Presenter: Colleen. 00:27:47.526 --> 00:27:48.036 Martha. 00:27:48.036 --> 00:27:51.006 Thank you so much for all of this information. 00:27:51.006 --> 00:27:52.746 I know I found it really helpful. 00:27:52.926 --> 00:27:55.146 I'm sure other people did as well. 00:27:55.306 --> 00:27:59.226 Just as a reminder, we will be sending out all the slides to anyone 00:27:59.226 --> 00:28:01.206 who has registered for this webinar. 00:28:01.206 --> 00:28:04.246 Those will be going out in the next day or so. 00:28:04.406 --> 00:28:07.196 Just remember that Jefferson Center is here for you and through the 00:28:07.196 --> 00:28:10.226 good times and the bad, we're here for you every step of the way. 00:28:10.476 --> 00:28:15.526 We are open and accepting new patients and we also are offering telehealth 00:28:15.586 --> 00:28:17.536 and virtual appointments now as well. 00:28:17.726 --> 00:28:22.236 You can find more information about us by going to jcmh.org. 00:28:22.461 --> 00:28:28.271 And you can also reach us by calling (303) 425-0300. 00:28:28.591 --> 00:28:31.531 Thank you all so much and have a great day. 00:28:32.111 --> 00:28:34.631 Colleen Jorgensen: I would like to answer one of the questions that came 00:28:34.631 --> 00:28:36.371 up while you were talking, if I might. 00:28:36.761 --> 00:28:42.131 Golden Rotary has worked with two schools in Jefferson County elementary schools to 00:28:42.551 --> 00:28:44.921 put cool down corners in their classrooms. 00:28:45.231 --> 00:28:50.571 I highly encourage the person who asked the question to go back to their teachers. 00:28:50.851 --> 00:28:52.591 There's a ton of 'em on Pinterest. 00:28:52.591 --> 00:28:57.091 If they would like more information, certainly contact Martha or myself 00:28:57.091 --> 00:29:01.321 and we will work with Golden Rotary to help bring that into the classroom 00:29:01.321 --> 00:29:03.181 if that's the desire of the teacher. 00:29:03.421 --> 00:29:04.021 Thanks. 00:29:05.088 --> 00:29:05.538 Presenter: All right. 00:29:05.538 --> 00:29:06.348 Thank you everybody. 00:29:06.348 --> 00:29:07.608 Have a great afternoon.